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Common Reasons for Relationship Issues and How to Find Help

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Taryn Pemberton

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Common Reasons for Relationship Issues and How to Find Help

Taryn Pemberton

Couples CounselingIndividual CounselingMarriage CounselingRelationship Issues
Common Reasons for Relationship Issues and How to Find HelpIs something missing from your current relationships with friends, coworkers, family members, or love interest? Do you want to deepen your connections, but you aren’t sure how to get past what blocks you from attaining healthy relationships? The counselors at our offices have helped many others like you discover reasons for their relationship issues. They also offer Bible-based solutions for the relationship problems you may be facing.

If you have had problems maintaining healthy relationships in the past, you may gain insight you’ve never experienced before from a caring Christian counselor. Many of us have blind spots that keep us from seeing the truth about ourselves and how we relate to others. A Christian counselor is a trustworthy, neutral party who can point out things you may have missed and help you get on track for healthy relationships according to biblical principles.

Reasons for Relationship Issues

There are many reasons why clients seek help for relationship issues. These are some of the most common issues we see in our offices:

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Unhealed wounds from past trauma

You may have experienced trauma from your past that has never been discussed before. This secrecy keeps the wounds unhealed, which can cause problems to manifest in your relationships. By discussing past trauma in the safety of a Christian counselor’s office, you can receive the healing you need and deserve.

Family of origin issues

Your original family relationships may have been distant and cold, warm yet unreliable, abusive, or nonexistent. Whether or not you are still in an active relationship with toxic family members, you may have carryover into your other relationships.

A compassionate counselor will listen to the struggles you had in your family of origin and help you learn new, healthy ways to relate to others. It takes hard work to break the patterns you learned as a child, but your counselor can help you engage with this process.

Bad breakups

Common Reasons for Relationship Issues and How to Find Help 1Have you had one or more bad breakups with a love interest that broke your heart? These breakups can still affect the ways you interact with others, causing an abundance of fear and restraint in future relationships. With a counselor’s help, you can find healing in God’s presence and build your trust in him, so you can start rebuilding trust in others too.

Broken friendships

We were created to be social, and friendships are essential for our emotional well-being. But you may have been hurt by friends before, which keeps you from seeking friendships now. Alternately, you may feel you need more skills to help you make new friends in your current stage of life. Your counselor will role play with you, helping you practice methods for forming new friendships.

Extended family problems

You may have grown up in a loving, supportive family, but now they are meddling in your personal affairs. This is a common problem among young adults and those who are newly married. With coaching from a Christian counselor, you will learn how to set boundaries against offensive behavior from your family and gain skills in speaking the truth in love. The counselor’s office is a great place to gain the support and encouragement you need to separate from your extended family and be confident on your own.

Low self-esteem

If you have low self-esteem, it can impact every relationship you have, whether at home, school, work, church, or in your family. A caring Christian counselor can help you discover the reasons for low self-esteem and affirm your priceless value in God’s eyes. The work you do in personal development with your counselor will bless all the relationships you have with others.

Codependency

Codependency is a complex problem rooted in a power imbalance between two individuals. If you are codependent, you are surrendering too much power to the other person, who is likely taking advantage of you. Your counselor can help you identify areas in which you are codependent and form new skills for overcoming this significant problem.

Passivity

Common Reasons for Relationship Issues and How to Find Help 2Passivity is another relationship dynamic that can slowly erode the bonds between people. If you are passive, your counselor can help you strengthen your assertiveness and practice them before exercising them in front of others. Passivity is a problem that can be overcome with a Christian counselor’s help, and you’ll feel stronger in all your relationships once this problem is solved.

Anger issues

You may not realize you are suffering from anger issues. Maybe you do not explode in anger but allow it to seep out in sarcasm and passive aggression. These unhealthy dynamics can wear down your relationships and drive others away from you. A Christian relationship counselor will help you recognize this problem and show you healthier ways to relate to others.

Self-destructive habits

Do you engage in negative self-talk and expect others to lift you up with their words? Do you have a critical spirit that you turn on both yourself and others? These habits are both self-destructive and detrimental to relationships. A Christian counselor can help you recognize areas where you can invite the Holy Spirit to heal you, so your relationships can benefit as well.

Social anxiety

If you feel anxious about meeting people, yet long for connection, you may be struggling with mild to moderate social anxiety. Though isolation may be your go-to coping mechanism, you know it’s not making you truly happy. In Christian counseling, your therapist will use gentle techniques to draw you out of your shell and help you reach out to others with increased confidence.

Other disorders

Sometimes we see clients who do not realize that they suffer from an addiction or a mental disorder that is hampering their relationships. A qualified counselor will use a full evaluation to help you discover any problems with which you may not be aware, and help you deal with them from a compassionate standpoint.

Relationship issues are as diverse as the people who experience them. Whatever your relationship issue may be, you can gain practical help and biblical guidance by meeting with a Christian counselor who is trained to help you overcome through the power of the Holy Spirit.

Christian Relationship Counseling for You

Common Reasons for Relationship Issues and How to Find Help 3You may wonder what kind of relationship counseling is best for you. Depending on your situation, we may recommend individual counseling, family counseling, or marriage counseling. Some of our clients also benefit from group counseling on certain issues. We will determine which type of counseling best suits your relationship issues and will lead you on the most effective healing path for your needs.

Christian counseling for relationship issues not only helps you address the specific problems you are facing with friends, family members, coworkers, or love interests. It can improve your quality of life, helping you relate to others in positive, healthy ways. We want to show you how to build healthy relationships through role-playing, active listening, and other techniques that will boost your interpersonal skills.

In your counseling sessions, you will discover hidden barriers to deeper connections. You’ll also uncover inner fears that keep you from living up to your full potential. Also, with a Christian counselor, you’ll gain the biblical encouragement and prayer support you need to become a wholehearted Christ-follower. At the same time, you’ll grow in your faith as you connect more deeply with God in your quest for healing, hope, and greater peace.

If you are weary of unresolved conflict in relationships, unfulfilling relationships, or lack of connection to others, our counselors are ready to help you. We have helped others gain interpersonal skills for dealing with family members, friends, co-workers, love interests, and more. We are here to support you on your journey toward healing in all your relationships. Give us a call today to learn about the right track of counseling for your relationship issues.

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As your counselor, I offer empathy, hope, and a path toward healing in Christ. I will listen to your story and work with you to find the best solutions to the challenges you face. Whether you’re dealing with depression, anxiety, grief, relationship issues, trauma, an eating disorder, or other concerns, it would be my honor to walk alongside you in your journey toward wellness. Together with God’s help, we will determine the ideal treatment plan for you to find the hope, healing, and wholeness you desire. Read more articles by Taryn »

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Taryn Pemberton, MA, LMHC, NCC

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As your counselor, I offer empathy, hope, and a path toward healing in Christ. I will listen to your story and work with you to find the best solutions to the challenges you face. Whether you’re dealing with depression, anxiety, grief, relationship issues, trauma, an eating disorder, or other concerns, it would be my honor to walk alongside you in your journey toward wellness. Together with God’s help, we will determine the ideal treatment plan for you to find the hope, healing, and wholeness you desire. View Taryn's Profile

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