Couples Counseling

Live in harmony with one another. – Romans 12:16a

What is couples counseling? In a nutshell, couples counseling offers professional, unbiased perspectives and guidance to aid couples to overcome struggles they cannot resolve on their own. Often times, when we become stuck in conflict and harmful, destructive behaviors, it’s easy to lash out at one another. When your relationship becomes a back and forth struggle of hurtful words, actions, and emotional withdrawal, Christian couples counseling can help you find more desirable, faith-based ways to communicate and handle hurt and conflict, and learn to “serve one another humbly in love” (Galatians 5:13b).

The main purpose of Christian couples counseling is to help you build a healthy, Christ-centered relationship. To do this, both partners must commit to finding forgiveness with the understanding that Christ is merciful to all who seek Him for healing and redemption. Our Christian counselors will lead your relationship on a path of discovery, healing, and growth through experienced counseling and applied Biblical principles.

How do you know whether you need couples counseling?

Common issues include:

Communication Problems –  Most relationship problems aren’t classified as breaking-point issues, but rather a buildup of hurt and miscommunication. Many of us have been there at some point – struggling to find solutions for conflicts that make you feel unheard, frustrated, and without hope. Whether harmful or stalemate, communication is a problem or a general lack of expressing needs and concerns. We can help couples learn healthy and affirming communication skills so each partner is heard and the relationship can flourish unhindered.

Infidelity – Infidelity is one of the most serious issues couples face. If you or your partner had or considered having an affair, the sooner you get help, the better odds you have at healing. Infidelity is often a symptom of deeper issues that are very difficult to resolve without professional, third-party intervention.

Aloneness or Lack of Emotional Intimacy – If you often feel alone in your relationship, this can lead to serious, relationship-ending problems. Couples who feel distant and emotionally disconnected are at risk for increased conflict and in some cases, infidelity. One of the main goals of Christian couples counseling is to help couples fullyconnect with themselves, each other, and with God.

Damaging Behaviors –  When relationships are strained, people often fall into harmful behaviors that can make matters much worse. Often these responses are deeply rooted because of issues in childhood and can be difficult to overcome without help. We can help you break the cycle of unhealthy relationship behaviors.

… Encourage one another and build each other up … – 1 Thessalonians 5:11

When you come to us, we will do everything possible to help your relationship heal and grow into a lasting union. Spokane Christian Counseling offers a holistic approach to couples counseling that utilizes both evidence-based counseling methods and the healing power of faith in Christ, so that each person gets everything they need for whole-person wellness. By helping the individual reach their full potential in Christ, you can come together stronger and better equipped for handling challenges as a couple.

65% of couples who participate in couples counseling report “significant” improvement in their relationship.

Benefits of couples counseling includes:

• Significantly improve communication and intimacy.
• Breaking down emotional and psychological barriers within your relationship.
• Nurturing the strengths of your relationship.
• Finding a new perspective that allows you to fully heal.

Working to end destructive behaviors. At Spokane Christian Counseling, our marriage and couples counselors are experienced and skilled at working with couples to find real, lasting solutions – no matter how desperate the situation might seem.

With years of experience guiding couples to find healing for desperate challenges, we can confidently stand by Christian couples counseling as a reliable tool for positive and lasting change. No matter how small or severe your problems seem, we have solutions to help you move toward the relationship you want.

At the conclusion of couples counseling, about 75% of couples are better off than similar couples who did not receive counseling.

A variety of couples counseling techniques are available through Christian counseling. Your counselor will employ the best method for your unique story in order to guide your relationship toward recovery and strength.

The most common couples counseling techniques include:

• Gottman Method – This method helps you build “love maps” designed to find understanding of your partner’s fears, stresses, hopes, joys, and history. The goal is to grow a deeper connection and appreciation for the needs and experiences of each person. You will also learn skills for effective conflict management.
• Crucible Approach Couples Counseling – This revolutionary counseling method is geared toward building sexual intimacy. Each person is given tools for personal growth to overcome issues that make building a fully-connected relationship challenging. This method identifies problem areas within your relationship and offers out-of-the-box solutions that last.
• Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy – This approach offers real solutions fast by setting substantial, short-term goals. These goals involve changing damaging emotional responses, building a stronger emotional connection, and learning how to interact with one another in ways that are healthy and productive.
• Narrative Therapy – Narrative therapy builds communication by allowing each partner to describe their experiences in narrative form. This creates a separation between the problem and the individual so that feelings can be expressed freely without hurting one another and defining each other by your mistakes. Your counselor will help you rewrite the negative parts of your story together, so you have real solutions for building the relationship you both want.
• Psychodynamic Approach – Sometimes our pasts, such as issues in childhood, abuse, or abandonment can have lasting, negative effects on our adult relationships. This approach brings to light the subconscious causes for your problems in order to change irrational patterns and harmful behavior.

The Christian couples counselors at Spokane Christian Counseling offer a client-centered approach, so each person gets what they need for real relationship recovery. Sometimes creating a lasting, thriving relationship can be difficult, but the process is often very rewarding and can help us grow in ways we never imagined.

And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. – Colossians 3:14

The key to building a Christ-filled relationship is to bring your cares, hopes, and battles to the Lord so you can find peace and fulfillment through the boundless love and grace of Christ. And yet, when dealing with difficulties, it’s easy to forget everything that is promised to us through faith. Christian couples counseling will urge you to connect with your faith and with God while offering proven couples counseling techniques that will help you form better habits for relationship wellness.

93% of God-centered couples say they are happy in their relationship.

If your relationship isn’t what it could be and you’re looking for effective couples counseling in Spokane, then we are glad you found us. Spokane Christian Counseling has years of experience working with couples as they grow solid relationships on the firm foundation of God’s Word.

To learn more about Christian couples counseling or to schedule your risk-free initial session, contact us today.

Before you call it quits, do everything you can to save your relationship. To start Christian couples counseling, simply contact us online or give us a call at (509) 209-8961.